Self-love is Layer Based: Confidence & Patience are Two of Them

 When they say self love is a journey, they mean it. You don’t decide out of the blue, one day to love yourself and start to love yourself then and there. It has layers that come to your consciousness slowly and then with your constant efforts either start to fade away or get stronger, based on what helps you the best.

CONFIDENCE and PATIENCE

No sooner that a term becomes a cliche (self-love, in this case), we start to run away from it as if it were a thing of shame. Well, that’s what the process of attaining self-love teaches you. You don’t have to do things that are ‘popularly considered’ as something. 

It helps to let you become more and more aware of the fact that you have a mind of your own that knows the right thing, that is not delusional about the wrongs either and instills in you the confidence to publicly stand by what you believe in. That’s right, I described the concept of confidence right there. 

Don’t get confused if you see someone very confident to also be self-loving. Confidence does not necessarily imply love for oneself. Some people are seemingly confident and simultaneously rude which leaves me wondering if it even is confidence or just some facade. 

The true kind of confidence reflects differently. You can’t doubt that when you see it and it comes when one is extremely safe and secure in their being. It comes when they know that they are not perfect and that nobody is, which is why it’s fine to falter sometimes and it’s fine when they do. They don’t know arrogance. That’s right, they have patience.

We all make several mistakes, we give wrong answers in class, we say wrong things at not-so-right places, so on and so forth. The one wrong thing we do and that, if done right can change the entire ball game, is we get highly impatient with ourselves. We find it out of our capability to forgive ourselves for certain things that we accidentally did. Accidentally, because you wouldn’t do it if you knew it was wrong or would you?

That’s the point. We don’t purposely give wrong answers, we don’t take health seriously because we are not entirely aware of its grave implications. None of us can be in full awareness about everything and that’s why we make mistakes. At the times when you realize the fault, instead of feeling deep shame within and cursing yourself to near death, pause. Try to observe and see what you can learn from it. There’s always something you’ll find for an answer.

Confidence within and patience for yourself are the two pillars of great strength that give you the freedom to stand on your own two feet and still stand when no one is by your side. Support for you must come from yourself, first.

We can be alone and we will be at many points in our life but we should not feel lonely, in case we do...there’s something inside that’s asking for attention and thereby, healing. 

These are the two points of self-belief and safety/security which will be the topics for the next article. Till then, have fun and work on yourself as I do too!       

   ROOLIE